From where you are sitting it could be easy to get really worked up and wonder how far can this child go before tripping over the lace again? You could easily realise that until that shoelace is tied that little person will keep falling with each fall making her dirty and draining a bit of her enthusiasm and limiting her potential to actually enjoy playing when she eventually gets to the playground. Yet, we all have moments when we find ourselves knocked down, on our knees haunted by self doubt, painful memories and past failures. Emotions and thoughts that dare us to just give up, stop dreaming big and just settle for the ordinary. A number of greatness thoughts tell us to rise and run again but a recent incident had me wondering what if when we found ourselves in the basement we sit for a bit, tie our shoelaces then rise again.
A powerful strong woman I know was once asked how she made it through all the hard times she had been through and she said ‘’I have learnt I will find myself in the basement several times along the way. I have embraced it, learnt to sit and cry, heal, restructure then stand again. For I know when I do stand again, I will run with increased determination’’ On further reflections, I understood it to mean that when we fail or we just fall along the road let us analyse what we did wrong, make peace with it and get back in the race. In some circumstances it’s easier because the problem just might be that we did not manage time well and missed a deadline, did not study enough and failed an exam or overspent on that pair of shoes and used rent money. These I believe we can usually quickly correct in the next exam sitting, next month’s deadline or next payday but in this one I want to deal with emotional shoe laces.
There are emotional issues in our lives that we think we can forget and walk away from but I have learnt it’s never that easy. Many experiences in our lives can leave us with feelings or emotions that just loosen something within us. Failure to achieve something within a set period could breed self doubt and possibly a fear of ever setting targets again. If we do not deal with what actually went wrong and remove this self doubt we may start fearing to pursue our greatness as we are slowly convinced we are not worthy. If a child is always told they are useless, a failure and will never make it they may end up believing it. Unless one day they sit and rewire and realise that they were abused, discouraged and demotivated but within them lies a seed of greatness they may always hold back from challenges and easily give up. Along the way we may be let down by people who did not provide, did not care or were just never there for us. This could create a sense of disappointment, make us question our worth and generally lose faith in others. In a race where we need to know and believe our worth, trust others to run a certain part of the race with or for us such feelings could be costly shoe laces. I dare you to look realise that you are a strong person who still made it thus far regardless of failure and disappointment.
The shoe lace does not get bigger every time we fall! It’s seemingly increasing hold over us comes from the pain and frustration that grows within us when we are haunted by the same thing repeatedly. I don’t know what or who untied your shoe laces and made you fall but what I know is if you sit and tie those shoe laces when you rise my friend, you will be much stronger in this race of greatness. What say you? Do we just shove the lace back into the shoe and hope we can cover a lot of distance before it comes loose again??? Or we sit and tie that shoe lace once and for all???
This piece has been previously published on Contemporary Motivation and My Daily Insights