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2. People are everything.
From family who sees us through from nappies to podiums, possibility openers who told us we could and God sent friends who became family. I am because you are.
3. Prices and processes
There is a price and process to everything and if you are willing to work, practise, be disciplined and sacrifice as much as required, the world is yours for the taking and only a few things remain out of our reach.
4. Opening up possibilities.
Most times all it takes is someone showing others that it can be done and how it can be done. When we do that for others
the possibilities are endless.
5. Do not take it personal.
Much time is spent worrying about 'how could they do that to me' but honestly everyone is just trying to figure out the mystery that their own life is and are hardly ever on a mission to make yours horrible. Some of their decisions may affect you but it is NOT about you.
6. Live and let live.
There is no one right way to live life. Our different experiences entitle us to different interpretations, priorities and preferences. We have no right to impose our 'ideals' on anyone.
7.We all need L plates
The way people are kind and patient with drivers displaying L plates is the way we should all be a little patient and kinder to everyone. Knowing something makes you no better than anyone who does not- they may not even need to know it anyway.
8.Perfection will catch up.
Many times we do no start things because we are afraid we may not be able to do it perfectly. Truth though is we are not perfect because we have not started at all. Just get started already-perfection will catch up.
9.Mistakes are okay - it means you are learning.
I am still struggling with this one and often discredit myself for making so many mistakes but when we make mistakes it actually means we dared try something we were not certain we could do right. So beyond taking responsibility, making amends and learning the lesson-regret over mistakes is totally unnecessary.
10. Work in progress
Whatever you can not do just yet is not a reflection of your capacity. It means you just have not let it yet but you have gone through the right processes for you to become it. Be a little more patient with yourself and keep learning
Yet though you are a work in progress, guard against becoming forever work in progress. Progress has milestones so regularly check to ensure you are actually making progress and growing and becoming better.
12. It gets a little easier
Just because it is difficult does not mean you cannot master it. Remember how many times you fell when you learnt to walk? Or how you had to literally look when you changed gears or between the accelerator and brakes when you started driving? Yet now you do it like second nature? With practise anything becomes easier.
13. Change is messy
Because we start with enthusiasm , the the confusion grips when we are no longer who we were yet not yet who we want to become yet when we endure it all finishes so well as we reach new levels. Just never quit on anything in the midst of the confusion and pain. Get through it then decides if it aint worth it.
14. Its fine to change
That business of same old same old is actually not the truth. Our understanding perception of life changes, the resource we have change, the things we prioritise and desire change, people around us change-so why is it such a bad thing for people to change. Yes a lot has happened, I know better, I want more and I am more - I have changed, thank you.
15. Sympathy or growth
When we encounter incidents that demand the more that we could be, we tend to seek the sympathy of others who are living the same reality. Yes you will get sympathy and affirmation but you will not grow. When you are serious about growth, you wipe your tears, tell folks you are fine and keep pushing,
When two people who have sat for all their life and its working perfectly fine for them are presented with the possibility of flying one might just say w=What? Fly? That sounds like a lot of learning, effort and really no, thank you. I will actually just lie on my back and enjoy this good life.
Another may think hmmm, now that could be an idea, I could try it, okay let me try crawling, then maybe walk, oh wow I can even try running and when they gather enough might to try fly-whether they land on the moon or just above the clouds is another story but the thing is they have seen life from a different perspective and know they can do more.
Get the drift? Be careful what you do with those big hairy audacious thoughts that cross your mind once in a while
17. Do not settle
You know the ideas you have in your head of the kind of life you want to live. The job you want, the relationship you want, the house you want to live in - you know it. Though it may be hard or even embarrassing to want so much given where you are-do not settle. Pursue that ideal and standard you want relentlessly-good things come to those who wait.
18. Do not underestimate your contribution
So there are times when you find yourself in places where you are surrounded by greatness and you question your own efforts. Now, now if everyone was a chef who would wash the dishes? If creating order, maintaining tidy environments and ensuring people do not fall sick is your thing that makes the world go round, keep calm and walk your truth
19. Do not over estimate your contribution
Yet sometimes ego will get in the way and you start to think you run this engine. Truth is no matter how significant your contribution is, you need other people to support the show. And in all honesty the only thing that cannot go on without you is only your life. So yeah..chill.
20. Find a passion
Everyone alive deserves to find something in this life that will invigorate them, push them to discover new levels of their self, take them around the world or at least show them different sides of the world and that they so become obsessed with it just shows them how passionate they can be. It could be a cause, a hobby, a skill or even a person- find something.
You know those people that do not make sense as to why they are your friends. Who regularly make you mad, reveal your insanity and make you laugh out loud just at the thought of their madness. Yeah. Cherish those ones. They are life's way of whispering to you that you are actually okay and a part of the plan
22. Question things
We live in a world where doubt is frowned upon but a little scepticism could make you realise just how much more could be there to the story. Question your own performance, your beliefs, the meaning of life and yup - question God every once in a while -whatever that means to you.
23. Blank canvases
It is easy to imagine that the way we experienced happiness, love and peace in the past is the ultimate. The danger with that is we then miss the changing shapes and forms and just sit there waiting for a state that may never return again. Be grateful for yesterday but embrace each new day expecting beauty, happiness and peace without a container for it.
24. Be you
Sometimes there is pressure to align with all the ideals that people have placed on people like you. But that's just such a huge generalisation. No one else has ever walked your path, seen the things you saw, imagined what you and understand life the way you do. Nomatter how much you have in common you also have a lot of unique things going on. So make peace with being you- whatever that may look like or feel like at different stages.
25. Choose your crowd
The people you spend time with do influence the way you see the world and life and capacities and a whole lot of other things. It is absolutely fine to want to hang out with people who inspire you, encourage you and appreciate you and let go of the people who demean you and drain your energy. You can still love them....just from afar.
Bonus : YOLO
Every once in a while have a YOLO typa day, night or even week. Seriously, its fine to let your hair loose and just do some of those things that you have always wondered how they will end. Remember no one is coming out of life alive anyway so yeah...knock yourself out
Disclaimer :I hold no super powers over your parents, partner,boss or the police.
So...what have you learnt in your own years of existence and which of the above do you identify with or beg to differ on?