One thing I've noticed, at any given point in time, humans always complain. In 1976, the cost of living was high to the people at that time, they complained and wailed that it was the end of the world, things were never like the used to be, still in 1976, things were relatively cheaper than they are now and somehow the world had less billionaires than we have in 2016 and haven't ended yet.
Success to some people in 1976, would not really be success to others today in 2016. Still in 2016, we are still complaining, because that's what we humans do best.. Complain aka lamentations of lamenters de lamentors.
Like my friend, who didn't see the value of the link I sent about the habits of successful people, because to him, the definition of success, which translates to excess money that will not make him cry about the high price of tomatoes(although, even if the price of tomatoes is ₦50 for a basket, some people will still complain that it's too high and that times are bad), success means different things to all of us.
In high school I had a friend from a wealthy family, brilliant in his academics and good in music and acting.
To him, success was to be an international musician or actor, at a time when acting was considered a part time job or a career for school drop outs or those that have no academic ambitions. Music, was mostly for kids that smoked marijuana with no future ahead of them.(this was before Nollywood and the Nigerian music boom and its international acceptance). So we never really understood what his problems was. (I mean, he's like the best in class and stuff like that, he's supposed to have lofty ambitions now, haba!) He had one of the best results in school, went to university in the UK to study law, passed with flying colors, passed his bar exams and was actually called to bar. But he throw all that away to pursue his music and acting career. Although I wasn't among those that thought he was possessed by some ancestral evil spirits from his village preventing him from being great, I was, however, very convinced that his father's money clouded his judgment, if not, how else could one explain his "stupidity".
Time went by, we lost touch and I never heard from him again.
Fast forward to 2014, I'm watching TV, who did I see? My friend! Winning music video award, best new entry, best new this, best new that.. I screamed, telling everyone near me how we were best buddies in school, calling all the other school mates to see who has his number, he's now a star, his number is not that easy to find.. Followed him on Instagram, on YouTube, Facebook, Twitter, everywhere! just to let him know that I'm still supporting him, I'm now a fan, no longer a friend.. But who cares, I know a celebrity joor. And no, he's not stupid, possessed by an ancestral spirit, how? Bad belle people sef! I was happy and I drew a huge lesson from him.
Successful people, people we celebrate today, all of them, infact most of them, started off worse than us, but one thing is very certain, at one point or the other, they clearly defined what success meant to them. They consciously or unconsciously developed habits and routines that helped them focus on that success. In all circumstances, disappointment and failures, they never lost hope or gave up on their vision and definition of success.
The fundamental difference between my friend and I was that he knew what he wanted, he failed so many times, he was distracted by things that were not aligned to his dream, but he never gave up.
I don't know what success means to you, but to achieve it, you need to clearly define it. Have it in your head, dream about it, act it, believe it and go after it with all you have. Develop habits that will help you achieve your success, reinvent yourself and find ways to adapt when your plans fail or circumstances change.
Some days will be harder than the others, that's when your affirmations will come in handy, to remind your mind what your purpose is. There's no other way. Even armed robbers and criminals will tell you this(in case you love the dishonest route of making money and your definition of success is being a criminal lol, but lemme be the first to warn you that it's not worth it, police go catch you one day, if dem no catch you, your conscience will and you'll generally live a miserable life, cos success has no short cut)
Whatever success means to you, define it, have the strength to adapt and change with changing circumstances and life's uncertainty, develop habits and routine that will help you achieve it and be patient, success doesn't happens over night.