NO ONE! Absolutely nobody owes you anything in this life.
There are people in this world who will find every excuse under the sun to make nothing out of their lives and expect someone somewhere to bend over backwards to make things easier for them. The way I look at it the only people who have somewhat of a responsibility towards you are your parents, by virtue of having being given the honour to bring you on earth. Yet even for them, their life does not start and end with you. They have a lot of other things going on including their own lives. And if they have provided you with food, shelter and the best education they could- get your act together already and start creating your own life now. Some people feel like someone in the world owes it to them to create opportunities for them to grow and advance but that is not the case. Most of the people in your life choose to be a part of your life, giving you their time, support and guidance and it is up to you to make the best of it and make it work. Only those who dare to quieten their excuses and take full responsibility for their own lives get to live their dream lives.
My grandmother is the embodiment of this principle and this picture summed up her character for me. Grandmother was widowed at a very young age and all she was left with was three daughters. At that time, having female children was considered a waste of time as they would eventually just get married, leave their father's house and start a new life with their husbands. As such educating the girl child was considered a waste of money. So my poor grandmother was left there with only her three daughters and the best she could expect from the family was for them to provide shelter some food and hope her daughters were of good behavior so they could attract suitors to marry them. At that point society was not very generous with widows moving away from their late husband's family so grandmother's best option was to stay there, besides she had no education or qualifications to fend for herself. She had enough reasons to not be able to feed the girls , let alone take them to school when fully able bodied men with several wives and farms and animals would not. Her fate appeared sealed and she could be forgiven for whatever became of her daughters.
But grandmother was not like that. She doesn't not like, believe or entertain any form of self pity from herself or from anyone whatsoever. Even when she had a stroke cleaning and feeding her were the hardest thing as she fought to still do it for herself...so just sitting in that village and let the world decide her daughter's fate was the last thing she was going to do. She was uneducated but she was dead set on getting her girls trained to write, read and speak like the white man. So she packed her belongings and moved to the city where she knew no-one and with the little money her husband left for her, she started selling fish. From her fish money, she managed to send her daughters to school and achieved her dream of training her kids to read and write. She went a step further to send them to secondary school and eventually, teachers training school and nursing school.
As far as I am concerned this woman had every excuse under the sun. She was an uneducated widow, with only daughters and surely without a job or a field of her own, it was going to be hard to raise the girls, feed them let alone even send them to basic school. But she recognised that no one else owed her or her daughters anything and she sought to go out and make her own way and a place for her daughters in the world. I imagine she had many sleepless nights, weathered the sunny days, the cold, days, the rainy days , the dusty days and everything in between to stock and sell her fish. From my trips to the markets I imagine everything about her smelled fish too and with three children in school she couldn't afford to buy her gears and wrappers like other women (Nigerian women love their attire by the way). It was rough, rugged and tough but she had a vision, she had dream and knew there was no place for self pity, feeling sorry for herself or procrastinating about it because no one was going to wake up some day and decide to pay their dues to her.
Now I do not know what life has dealt you and just how many people around you look like or should feel obliged to assist you, support you or sympathise with you to make your dreams happen but like I said earlier NO ONE is obliged to make your dreams happen for you. It may sound cruel to you, but the truth is the world doesn't care about your problems. You have a problem? Find a way, find a solution, get up and do something. Because we all have our problems and dreams too. We sometimes begrudge richer relatives or employers who seem to indulge in luxuries when we are fighting for the basics but for the work they have done, the battles they have fought and where they have come from-they possibly feel the world owes them a break in the form of that holiday to the Carribea so get on with it and sort out your own business.