So given my ear , it did not come as a surprise when one day a friend called me, crying and complaining. Her story was sad but honestly it was nothing extraordinary, given the socio-economic situation of the country. But she was used to being in control of every aspect of her life, everyday must be planned accordingly and follow a certain norm and pattern. But now, life just showed up and she had no clue how to handle it. Her next rent was not guaranteed, her job was no longer secure, she had just incurred new bills, school fees for her and extra expense that she had not planned for. The kids were about to start a new school,her landlord didn't pay for water and electricity bill which he already took from her from last month rent, now she didn't have electricity and water and it wasn't in the plan and budget to pay extra for these things....... From her voice over the phone, I could pick up that she had had it to the brim and because she was a close a friend, I asked her, if we talk about it over coffee. She started saying something about not having money and I had to gently remind her that coffee is still affordable and that I'm the one inviting her not the other way round.
We met at the agreed place and started discussing the "problems" and all I could do in her case was to just listen. During the course of the conversation, she said something very strange that made me laugh so hard inside my mind that I was even surprised I didn't "lol" in her face. She said "I wish my life is organised like yours, you seem to have it figure out and live very happy".
That statement made realize how as humans, we always focus on the outward, our primary attention and main cause of most of our problems is this simple but complicated method on focusing on the things we can see. We don't have time to appreciate what we have but we're also consciously or unconsciously focusing on the outward expression or manifestions of the things that we perceive happens in the life of others.
Yes everyone has issues and some people just seem to have it all together but that does not aggravate your own situation at all.